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Umm Sulaym bint Milhan — The Woman Who Made Her Islam Her Dowry and Carried a Dagger into Battle: A Companion of Fearless Piety

أُمُّ سُلَيمٍ بِنتُ مِلحَان — المَرأَةُ الَّتِي جَعَلَت إِسلَامَهَا مَهرَهَا وَحَمَلَت خَنجَرًا فِي المَعرَكَة: صَحَابِيَّةٌ ذَاتُ تَقوَى جَرِيئَة
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Umm Sulaym bint Milhan al-Ansariyya (أُمُّ سُلَيمٍ بِنتُ مِلحَانَ الأَنصَارِيَّة; d. after 30 AH; from the Khazraj tribe of Medina; mother of Anas ibn Malik who served the Prophet; her first husband Malik ibn al-Nadr apostatized and left for Syria; she refused to follow him; her second husband Abu Talha al-Ansari proposed to her; she accepted with the condition that his Islam would be her mahr — she would not accept gold; present at Hunayn carrying a dagger; her son's death handled with extraordinary composure; praised by the Prophet as one of the women of paradise) is among the most distinctive female Companions — remarkable for the terms she set for her own marriage, the courage she showed in crisis, and the steadiness of her character under grief.

Islam as Mahr

When Abu Talha al-Ansari proposed marriage, Umm Sulaym stated her condition: she would not accept a marriage gift of gold or silver. Her mahr (bride-gift) would be his Islam. She had known him as a man who still held to idols; she made his sincere acceptance of Islam the price of her hand.

Abu Talha accepted. He accepted Islam and she accepted the marriage. The Prophet commented that no mahr was more valuable.


The Death of Her Son

Her son by her first husband died while the Prophet was away. She prepared the body, instructed the household to say nothing to Abu Talha until after he had eaten and rested, and when he asked how the child was, she answered: “He is calmer now than he has ever been.”

Only later did she tell him. She framed it to him as a question: if someone lends you something and then asks for it back, do you have the right to hold it? He said no. She said: God lent you your child and He has asked for him back. The Prophet was told this and said: “God blessed you in your night.”


The Dagger at Hunayn

At the Battle of Hunayn (8 AH / 630 CE), when some of the Muslim forces briefly broke, Umm Sulaym was present carrying a dagger. Abu Talha pointed her out to the Prophet. The Prophet asked what she had. She said: a dagger — if a polytheist comes near me I will rip open his belly with it.

See also: Seerah Khabbab Ibn Al Aratt, Seerah Sad Ibn Muadh, Seerah Zaynab Bint Khuzayma, Seerah Hafsa Bint Umar, Aisha Bint Abi Bakr

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